Monday, November 30, 2009
I apologize for the tardiness of our normal monthly segment of the Volunteer of the Month. We've had a VERY busy November! Our Volunteer of the Month, Jacquelyn Ghorayeb, was extremely busy this month with Heroes for Children, prepping for our Holiday Heroes program. Jacquelyn has been in charge of coordinating more than 100 volunteers in Dallas and Collin County of our HFC Friends Women's Auxiliary to shop, wrap, and prepare to donate gifts to the chosen Holiday Heroes families. She shopped for days at Walmart with teams of volunteers, and this weekend, Jacquelyn will be attending the holiday party in Dallas hosted by the Pi Phis of SMU to meet the families selected to participate in 2009.
We're so grateful to have a volunteer like Jacquelyn. She is so organized and handles multiple volunteers with such ease. She shares an enthusiasm and passion for Heroes for Children, especially our Holiday Heroes program. This is her second year to serve as the Holiday Heroes Chair, and we are so lucky to have her!! We know many families who will be grateful for the work Jacquelyn is doing too.
Name, Occupation: Jacquelyn Ghorayeb, sometime lawyer, always mother.
How did you get involved with HFC?
One afternoon, Christie Cahoon (HFC board member and last year's HFC Friends President) told me about HFC and the wonderful work it does. I immediately knew that it was an organization that I wanted to join. It has been an honor to be a part of HFC.
Do you have any kids and/or pets?
I have two little girls. Sydney is six years old and Laure is three.
From looking at you, no one would guess that…..
That I love the show So You Think You Can Dance.
Favorite place to eat:
A good diner, with a big breakfast.
What’s on your book shelf?
Right now, a lot of mysteries, but I also love books with great characters and relationships.
What’s in your iPod/CD changer?
I like musicians that write their own songs, usually Austin or Nashville artists.
Who’s your hero?
My mother. She has overcome so much in her life and constantly is giving of herself.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Heroes for Children is fortunate to benefit from 3 fundraising events happening over the next couple of weeks in the DFW area. We hope to see you at one of them!
1) For those of you ready to do your holiday shopping, we invite you to visit the Chi-Omega Christmas Market Nov 19-21. Heroes for Children is a beneficiary of this year's event, and we are so excited to showcase our organization. Stop by the HFC tree, browse 160 merchants and get your holiday shopping done early! For tickets, contact Jenny Scott at firstname.lastname@example.org.
2) Anyone in Southlake? Fish City Grill's First Tuesday event at their Southlake location will benefit Heroes for Children on Tuesday, December 1st! HFC will receive 15% of the day's sales. Please stop by! We will have some tshirt giveaways and we would love your support!
3) WillowBend Mall has a great off-price store called SH*OP (SHopping Off Price) which has name-brand clothing up to 70% off. They are hosting an in-store "couples night" on Thursday, December 3. For only a $5 donation at the door (to benefit Heroes for Children's 5th Birthday), you will enjoy delicious food, wine, musical entertainment, and a night out! You will also have a chance to meet HFC co-founders Larissa Linton and Jenny Scott. Stop by anytime after 5pm!
If you are looking for a charity to support with an end of year gift, Heroes for Children would love your to be your beneficiary. HFC spends approximately $15,000 per week in financial and social assistance. We rely on supporters like you to fulfill every request we receive. All donations to Heroes for Children are tax-deductible as allowed by law.
To donate online, please visit our website: www.heroesforchildren.org/donate. Or mail in your donation to our Dallas office - checks made payable to Heroes for Children, 1701 N Collins, Suite 240, Richardson, TX 75080.
Are you on our mailing list? You can learn about everything Heroes for Children is doing throughout the year by joining. To join our mailing list, please email your contact info to email@example.com.
Friday, November 6, 2009
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Pediatric cancer turns your life upside down. Somehow you accept the uncertainly of your new world; because you have no other choice and you move forward. Natalie received chemotherapy for twenty-six months. She had a central line in her chest during that entire time, which could not get wet and required weekly dressing changes.
Natalie has spent around 135 days inpatient in the hospital. She has had general anesthesia 24 times, had six surgeries (including having her gallbladder removed when she was three years old), she has had five bone marrow biopsies, and has had 17 spinal taps where chemo was put into her spinal fluid. Natalie has had major infections in her blood, one required her central line to be removed and replaced again.
Natalie had feeding and GI problems before cancer and those problems were exacerbated by treatment. She had a tube put in her nose (while awake) seven times before finally having a more permanent feeding tube placed. Natalie is still on a feeding tube. For more than two years, Natalie suffered from abdominal pain. During the early part of treatment, Natalie lost her ability to walk and even to sit. She went through physical therapy to regain her strength. She has been on more antibiotics and drugs and had more time spent in clinic than I care to remember. But nine months after finishing chemo, Natalie is doing amazingly well. She is now full of energy and plays and has fun with her brother. Her love of life has always been there. She is a joy to everyone she meets and has a sparkling personality.
Because they know the experiences of cancer life, they know cancer families don’t just leave their child with any old babysitter and go out for a night on the town. Cancer families can’t do this because our kids need special care. That is what made the Valentines Dinner so special for us. If it hadn’t been for HFC, we would’ve had our valentine date at home. Our valentine dinner would have been shared with our sweet children at the table. Which is great, but doesn’t exactly equal a romantic valentine dinner.
The Valentine’s Dinner hosted by Heroes for Children was perfect because our children were in the room next-door under the care of professionals and surrounded by the loving HFC volunteers. We knew they were happy and safe, but we were able to have a dinner together. Just my husband and myself. Those moments are rare. To top it off, they had a photographer come and take family pictures before we dropped our children off. Our children had a fun and memorable evening and we got pictures…all three are things that cancer families cherish.
(Natalie at the 2009 Valentine's Dinner)
After Natalie got sick, life seemed segmented. When memories came to mind, I always thought of them in terms of before and after she got sick. The Princess Ball when Natalie ended chemo, provided another milestone event…grand and memorable instead of memorable and hard. Now I could add another chapter, the after chemo chapter, to celebrate. I think it would’ve been memorable and created that idyllic ‘after’ no matter what, but the grandness of the celebration was like a springboard to propel forward.
Natalie has been ALL about princesses for some time. Last year before her birthday she told me she had never been to a princess ball before. I had known that I wanted to do something very special to celebrate her finishing chemo. I wanted it to be something she would always remember, something that would make her feel as special as she is to me. I wasn’t sure I could execute the vision I had on my own. I had read about HFC’s Milestone Celebrations some time before and decided to contact them to see if they would be willing to help. I could not think of a better milestone for a child with cancer than finishing up treatment.
They quickly agreed to help and through their hard work and the generosity of many others, HFC provided Natalie with an amazing milestone celebration. Natalie has “pretend princess friends.” She tells us they are pretend, but she enjoys playing make believe about them. She was even pretending to go to a ball in the weeks leading up to her own ball. It made the upcoming surprise all the sweeter.
The Princess Ball was even more amazing than I could have possibly imagined. Everything was catered to children. It was a real fairy tale princess ball, complete with all the details…a surprise dress, a grand entrance, a dance with her prince charming, and time with her “princess friends.” Natalie loved the night and felt so special. It was truly a celebration of her and the amazing milestone she had reached. Several weeks after the ball, Natalie asked if she could go back on chemo so she could have ANOTHER princess ball. I’m not sure there is a better testament of what the ball meant to Natalie than that.
It was quite an experience for our entire family. The only thing I would’ve changed about that night is to make it longer, I wished it wouldn’t end. We were all on cloud nine. My husband, David, slept in his tux that night…he wanted the magic to continue that much. We woke up the next morning and it felt like a fairy tale. The still crisp tux let us know it hadn’t been a dream.
At the beginning of treatment, we were told Natalie would likely be treated for 2 ½ years. That was overwhelming. At that time, I could hardly imagine making it to the end of treatment. That night was a celebration of the journey Natalie had been through and our journey with her. It was a celebration of her triumphs and what she had overcome. After more than two years, she was cancer free. Reaching that milestone was a culmination of so many emotions for me…so many emotions and memories were triggered.
The music of that night brought back so many emotions in a way that only music can. Our little family clung to each other on the dance floor, eyes closed, arms wrapped around our Natalie, tears streaming down David and my face; as they played our little princesses’ song. The interesting thing about the night was that it evoked memories, but instead of evoking memories of the hard times, it evoked memories of moments where our hearts felt the most gratitude, where we felt like we were on top of the world. The interesting thing about the cancer roller coaster, is that because the low moments are SO low, the high moments are so high they take your breath away. Never before in life, have little moments and things made me feel so deeply and intensely.
My husband surprised me with a special song that night that he and I danced to. After Natalie finished her most intense part of treatment we took a little family trip, just the three of us…to celebrate making it through. We were beaten down. She had two major blood infections six weeks apart and had been experiencing the worst of her abdominal pain. Watching her in pain for so long without being able to relieve it was breaking our spirits down. We needed to escape the medical world. We took her to Sea World. As we crested the top of the mountain and began our decent into San Diego, David put this same song on. It was night and the air was full of moisture. We had the windows down and David had this song repeat over and over again for the 40 minute drive back down the mountain. He sang the song to Natalie and I in spanish over and over again…his voice cracking as tears ran down his cheeks. The symbolism and feeling of the moment were amazing., as were the next three days. It was another milestone in Natalie’s journey. It was a milestone of the heart and I did not think it could be duplicated.
I have often said that I wished my heart was a camera because not only do I want to capture pictures of moments I want to remember, but I wish there was a way I could duplicate the feelings those special moments created in my heart. The night of Natalie’s princess ball did that for me. The memories of that night in San Diego and other precious ones were woven together, forever integrated with the night of her princess ball. The princess ball helped my heart recall all of the other moments and feelings along this journey that were so special to me.
Adjusting to life after the end of treatment hasn’t been the easiest thing. New worries and stresses come along, along with a change in role. I found that during treatment, I just had to keep going to get through it, I didn’t have time to stop and mourn the losses Natalie faced or really even think about things. Since chemo ended there has been time to let those feelings surface. The night of her princess ball has been a help to me on several occasions. I think that is what means the most to me. It continues providing me with hope.
New memories were made that night. New photos of the heart were taken. It was a glittery night, full of hope, happiness, and magic. The new memories made were healing, replacing many old ones. Natalie’s dress was full of glitter and everywhere she went, glitter trailed around her. That night was like pixie dust for my soul. The memories of that night continue to provide me with hope. When days come along that I feel worried, I can close my eyes and think of that night and it renews my hope. I imagine that night along with other memories and lessons I have learned, will continue providing my soul with pixie dust throughout my entire life.